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What NOT to say series – “Why did you do that?”

What NOT to say series – “Why did you do that?”… and what to say instead!

If we were totally honest with ourselves, we would admit that we are not really asking for information to solve a problem in this instance… instead, this sentence is often used by adults wanting to fix blame an deliver criticism. It is often a demand, and an accusation.

Kids hear it as a personal attack, and they experience anxiety and defensiveness. All it does is create a power struggle between parent and child, and the child is set up to lose!

This video discusses why you need to eliminate this from your repertoire of sentences, and what to say instead so that you don’t create distance between you and your child.

Enjoy, and Stay Amazing!

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